Sexual Purity: It's Possible!

Welcome back, dear friend, to our engaging series on sexual purity. By now, you know what sexual purity is - it is keeping yourself from every sexual act until marriage, and never outside marriage. 

Check out our previous article for a better understanding of this.

Remember, precious young one, that sexual purity is your Creator’s design for you. It is God’s good will for you; why not keep yourself in His love by walking in His will? Like we have mentioned in previous articles, sexual immorality, no matter how enjoyable it may seem in the moment, is the opposite of God’s good will for you, and it’s evil.

 This sin kills. This sin steals. It destroys. 

But the good thing is, it’s possible for you to live above this sin in all forms; it is possible to be saved from the destruction it brings. How? By the grace of God, our Creator and Saviour. You cannot be saved from or overcome sin on your own. Only God delivers from it.

Here's how to walk in sexual purity by the grace of God:

1. Acknowledge your need for His grace

Every step of the way, acknowledge that you need God’s help to please Him.God truly gives grace to the humble. The humble person acknowledges that he/she is a sinner and is in need of God’s forgiveness. God indeed reconciles such a person to Himself through Jesus Christ. 

Friend, are you truly reconciled to God? Have your sins been forgiven? Learn more about reconciliation to God here.

Resolve to forsake every known sexually immoral act, thought and habit.

Remember, you need God’s grace to say no, and if you have acknowledged your need for Him, God makes His grace available. So, decide that because God’s help is available, you will never again condone impure thoughts, habits and actions. That you will say “NO,” every time that suggestion comes, and stand your ground.

2. Guard your heart and your eyes

Many times, sexual immorality entices us through the things we see or watch, the conversations we take part in or listen to, the things we allow to settle in our minds, and the thoughts we ruminate on. That’s why the Bible instructs us to keep watch over our hearts diligently. Decide today that you will stop watching the things that stir up sexual lusts in you, hanging around friends that negatively influence you, or dwelling on thoughts that corrupt you. This will involve steering clear of corrupting content on social media: TikTok, Instagram, X, and pornography sites. If you are unable to exercise self-control yet, it is best to restrict yourself to only the essential applications that are low-risk, or go off social media entirely, while trusting God for self-control.

3. Seek help quickly if you are hooked

If sexual immorality has become an addiction you cannot seem to get over, remember that with God’s grace, overcoming is possible and near. However, there is a need to seek help from people who God has equipped to minister help to struggling people. 

For example, you can actually speak up to your understanding parents – prayerfully – because they want the best for you. If your elder siblings are also godly, feel free to open up to them. Wallowing alone makes the addiction thrive; speaking up may feel hard but it’s always worth it, including to a guidance counsellor at school, a trusted teacher(of the same sex), and so on.

4. Feed your mind with the right content

 While sexually stimulating content may have felt exciting, now that you have chosen to forsake them, it is essential for you to fill your mind with contents that actually build you up, stimulate your knowledge and help you grow your skill. Beneficial channels on social media apps like YouTube, Instagram, and WhatsApp can be used to your advantage, to learn and grow academically and in extracurriculars. It is also important to consume content that draws you closer to God – read the bible, get planted in a sound local church and keep growing. This applies to those who have been reconciled to God. All this will prepare you for the future – to be a top professional, a skilled worker, a godly spouse and a godly parent!

Now, our discussion rounds off on this note: that sexual purity is possible by the grace of God. 

Never mind that your peers are engaged in it in various forms; you can stand out! Among many foolish people, can be the one wise person who will decide to do the will of God like Daniel in Babylon. You can shine the light of sexual purity through Christ, who strengthens you, and influence others to do the same.

Remember, the only right container for sexual expression is… IN MARRIAGE!

Do you have any questions, or do you seek direct help or mentorship, or you want to share a testimony? Send us a mail at @ theprimeprojectnigeria@gmail.com. We’d love to hear from you!✨